Think carefully before you speak,especially if you are not good at finding the right words to say.Don’t begin the sentence,with “ums” and “ers” in between,it seems clumsy and awkward.Try speaking to yourself in a mirror,it works.It helps increase your confidence in speaking and make your speech much clearer; you may find that you will use fewer “ums” and “ers” in the future!
Speak with Respect to Anyone.Avoid negative remarks that may insult others.Do not use expressions or examples that imply disrespect or degradation or that to let people to imagine offensive plot,such as “how would you feel if someone...” followed by a description of violent and or degrading acts.You may not intend to be offensive,but actually it is.If you don’t want someone to speak about you that way,then don’t speak this way to anyone else,and that is the general rule.
Don’t speak loudly.If you do,you will lose respect quickly,because this can be regarded as arrogant and rude.It can make other people angry and upset with you too,failing to establish some kind of relationship with them.They will regard you as a “big mouth”,and even someone who can’t be trusted with anything secret.So if you have a loud voice,practise turning your volume down.
Using Terms of “Thank you”,“Please”,and “You are welcome” to show your good manners.People lacking manners don’t use these terms.
Always Respect Older People,and listen to them and learn.This applies to not only parents or grand parents but also all elders.
Don’t Speak of Bodily Functions,such as using the bathroom or telling the underbred jokes,even though it is a casual conversation.Because this is a sign of immaturity and often leaves friends,family,and coworkers a bad impression.
Do not Swear or use dirty language and curse words.It’s unprofessional.People doing so are seen as immature and having no self-control or respect for both themselves and others.Finally,you will discover that bad words are not appropriate and you will begin to feel more comfortable to avoid them.Profanity is very distasteful and offensive,it is a sign of an angry person and it puts people off you immediately.It may always give people the impression of intelligence,self-respect and character to use decent vocabulary.
Speak Highly of Your Parents and show respect for them,even if you do not like something about them.If you are really unable to do that,avoid talking about them at all around others.It looks absolutely vulgar to insult or speak badly of the people who brought you into this world or raised you.It is tacky and rude to air dirty laundry about your family.
Greet Others Appropriately even though you know someone well.If you are a man,you should not greet a woman by saying,“Hey Baby,what’s shaking?” Try something instead,like “Hello,good morning/evening,” or anything that would reflect your good manners and good sense.
Show Your Interest.Try to show your interest in the person you are speaking to by asking them questions about themselves.If you don’t want to come off as selfish,don’t steal their spotlight by just talking about yourselves.It will made people boring quickly and they will try to avoid any conversations in the future,if you constantly talk about yourself.
Don’t Put Other People Down,Look Down Upon Them,or Spread Gossip.Never try to criticize anyone in public to put them down or to make yourself look better.If you don’t like people speaking about you that way,then don’t do it yourself! Be complimentary and positive,such as avoid criticizing someone’s article.Their spelling and grammar may not be better than yours,but they did put forth a positive effort.Having an idea is one thing,however,being insulting is a sign of bad manners.It is impolite to tell secrets in front of others.If someone is gossiping or belittling a person,show you understand in a neutral way (a small nod to show your comprehension or an “mmhmm” should do),and then go on to compliment that person on something as closely related as possible.
Pay Attention to How You Carry Yourself.Act like you have some class that goes hand in hand with manners.Don’t slouch; show people a neat appearance; shake hands firmly (not limply,people can usually tell what kind of person you are by handshake); be clean and smell clean (use some deodorant under your arms! Bad odor is always an unpleasant experience to others); hold your head high; don’t hide behind dark sunglasses inside,it gives people the impression of arrogance; don’t wear other “trying to be cool” looks at the wrong time,it shows your immaturity.
Don’t Interrupt,Cut off or Override the person who is speaking,even though it is a casual conversation (unless they are insulting or swearing and so on).Show your respect to the person and try to let him finish what he is saying.Be a listener,in other words,and try to be a good one!
Ask for Clarification Properly.If you did not catch what a person said,or if you need something clarified，you may ask for clarification by using “Could you say that again for me,please?” or “I’m sorry?” Avoid only using the word “What?” because it tends to come off as brash and unrefined.