佚名/Anonymous
You are asking,"Is it possible to be married and to be free?"
If you take marriage non-seriously,then you can be free.If you tak e it seriously,then freedom is impossible.Take marriage just as a game-it is a game.Have a little sense of humor,that it is a role you are playing on the stage of life;but it is not something that belongs to ex istence or has any reality-it is a fiction.
But people are so stupid that they even start taking fiction for rea lity.I have seen people reading fiction with tears in their eyes,becau se in the fiction things are going so tragically.It is a very good devi ce in the movies that they put the lights off,so everybody can enjoy th e movie,laugh,cry,be sad,be happy.If there was light it would be a little difficult-what will others think?And they know perfectly well t hat the screen is empty-there is nobody;it is just a projected picture.But they forget it completely.
And the same has happened with our lives.Many things which are simp ly to be taken humorously,we take so seriously-and from that seriousne ss begins our problem.
In the first place,why should you get married?You love someone,li ve with someone-it is part of your basic rights.You can live with some one,you can love someone.
Marriage is not something that happens in heaven,it happens here,t hrough the crafty priests.But if you want to join the game with society and don't want to stand alone and aloof,you make it clear to your wife or to your husband that this marriage is just a game:"Never take it seri ously.I will remain as independent as I was before marriage,and you wi ll remain as independent as you were before marriage.Neither I am going to interfere in your life,nor are you going to interfere in my life;we will live as two friends together,sharing our joys,sharing our freedom-but not becoming a burden on each other.And any moment we feel that t he spring has passed,the honeymoon is over,we will be sincere enough n ot to go on pretending,but to say to each other that we loved much-and we will remain grateful to each other forever,and the days of love will haunt us in our memories,in our dreams,as golden-but the spring is ov er.Our paths have come to a point,where although it is sad,we have to part,because now,living together is not a sign of love.If I love you,I will leave you the moment I see my love has become a misery to you.If you love me,you will leave me the moment you see that your love is crea ting an imprisonment for me."