4. Enjoy life’s process， not just life’s rewards. We live in a goal-oriented society that wants problems resolved now. We want three-minute oatmeal， one-hour dry cleaning， and instant success. But to live with abandon， we must live one day at a time， savoring the little victories， realizing that life is an endless journey in self-discovery and personal fulfillment. It means taking time to hug your kids， kiss your spouse and let the other fellow ahead of you on the freeway.
“I was one of those people who never go anywhere without a thermometer， hot water bottle， raincoat and parachute，” wrote author Don Herold. “If I had my life to live over， I would go barefoot earlier in spring. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would take more chances， and I would eat more ice cream.”
5. Become involved in something bigger than yourself. I do not believe you will live happily if you set out to live life for yourself alone. Choose a cause bigger than you are and work at it in a spirit of excellence. It will become a part of you as you see your goals through to the end. Measure success not by what you’ve done， but what you could do.
幾年前，我收到一張明信片，是一位住在懷俄明州的朋友傑克遜·霍爾寄來的。他寫道：“我正在盡情地滑雪。”我感到很奇怪，因為我滑雪時總是驚恐不安的。我相信，他是說自己正熟練、歡快、平穩而又自信地滑雪。盡管，我是毫無希望那樣滑雪的，但我夢想盡情地生活。我相信，經時間證明那些生活幸福的人，都掌握了盡情生活的以下五個秘訣。
1.自尊。這意味著要對自己的言行高度負責；要遵守諾言、對自己、家庭和事業忠誠；信仰自己的事業並為之努力奮鬥；要樹立自身的內在準則，不與他人攀比。這不是說一定要比別人更好，自尊和正直要求自己比自我感覺的更好。
麵對敵對者，溫斯頓·丘吉爾樹立了自尊和正直的典範。他最後一年任職時，參加了一次公務典禮。他後麵幾排的兩位紳士竊竊私語，“那就是溫斯頓·丘吉爾。”“他們說他越來越老了。”“他們說，他應該退位，應該由精力充沛、能力更強的人來替代他來管理國家。”典禮結束後，丘吉爾轉身向那兩個人說道：“先生們，他們說丘吉爾還是個聾子！”